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Har Ek Friend Jaroori Hota hai..

I have been thinking so much about friendship since yesterday. You know, it's friendship day today. After being on this earth for 31 years, I know that there exists friendship for a lifetime and friendship even for a day. But friendship is everywhere on this earth and each of us needs some kind of pact. I am a mother, working full time, managing my home with a toddler, always busy, still, I care about my school, college, office, online friends. Although the tide is different now. We talk less but we value each other. Don’t you think Friendship as an adult is as important as it is for kids? 

Friendship is necessary for every facet of our lives, and it is a boon, especially in motherhood. We all know that motherhood can be exciting, amazing and that our hearts may feel as if they can’t get any bigger. But motherhood can also make a mother lonely, especially when she is a new mother. During early days, mothers are stuck at homes. They can't leave their babies and they are bound to live as per baby's needs. Then some stay-at-home mothers feel their friends are working and they are too busy to see them. Working mothers assume their stay-at-home friends are fully enclosed by family and kids and don’t poke them. Sadly this is how friendship goes at sixes and sevens.

For many mothers today, social media has been a bit of a savior. Sure, it has its side-effects, but for a mother at home with a newborn, it’s a lifeline. It gives her the chance to talk, connect and feel a little less alone. I have never been much of a social media person (although I work in software sector). But now I have many close friends with whom my companionship started through internet. We never met in person, still they all have a special place in my life. I know making friends isn’t always easy. It can be uncomfortable to spark up a conversation with a mother at the playground or the local society compound or even at Facebook. But if you find the right person, a kindred soul, it’s always worth it. 

I have made many good office friends in my 9 years of career but one friendship has become really important for me with time since last two years. I couldn't realize when Saumya has become my best buddy. Maybe because we think similar, our choices are close and we have same weight factor :) My son goes to a crèche facilitated by my office only. And with time, Saumya has become his friend as well. She is my son's "Saumya Masi". Co-incidentally Saumya and I share the same office transport as we live in the same locality. So we meet each other Monday to Friday until something unavoidable. 

Friendship of a Mommy is also vital because it lets you take a breathe outside of your mommy-hood. When I am in my office bus, Saumya looks after my tot. They both sing together, wave to passing people, notice flowers and trees, and make a lot of fun with each other. It’s so overwhelming to see my son laughing and enjoying with Saumya. I know all this will change with time. We might move in different projects, we might shift to our flats or we may switch our jobs. But until we are together we don't miss any chance to have a tea together with our funny chit chat.

So call your stay-at-home mommy friends and wish them Friendship day. It’s Sunday so ring your working friends also and disturb them saying Happy Friendship Day!

Comments

  1. I like the name Saumya and enjoyed reading about your friendship with her.
    Happy friendship day dear.

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  2. Lucky to have friend. the older we grow the harder it is to make new frds so having some mommy frds is a great thing!

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  3. So sweet..It is such a nice tribute to your friend. I agree friends are important and most importantly good and true friends.

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