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More than a soul mate for me..

‘This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.’

I admit for the fact that it was not “love at first sight” for me when I met my husband. And I know that it never was for my husband. It was not like any fairy tale that he saw me through some window and decided that I was the one made for him. The idea of soul mate seems more suitable for movies and poetries where love eventually leads to becoming a soul mate for anyone. Of course, this is my perception and I respect those who believe in the ideology of finding soul mates. I know my husband since my childhood. But it was not a childhood love in our case. As the time unfolded and our circumstances brought us closer, we realized that it was a relationship more than just an old friendship. And we got married.

Early in our marriage, I and my husband were thrown into situations where we found our relationship slipping like desert. Those days were neither romantic nor easy for us. As life went further, we experienced tough nearness challenges and road blocks. And those days forced us to be very clear-cut and stony. Our initial "ugly love" made us so real with each other which is not at all like we see in movies or on social media. We didn't romance like new couples, we didn't go on frequent dates and dinners, we didn't post pictures on social media and we didn't try to flatter each other.  But 'we were in love' and soon we realized that those few gloomy and backstage moments eventually made us good performers on front site. These moments when we criticized and supported each other, created a strong backbone to strengthen our partnership. Although it was difficult but I don't want to erase those days from my life. They have become part of our love story. From that time, I started looking a silver line behind every ugly moment.


I feel there is no as such definition of who is a soul mate. Movies and stories never go beyond finding a true soul mate. Sometimes happen when a person is so much in love with someone, yet somehow, someway, totally unhappy. There are lots of adjustments, compromises and problems come in syncing love and commitment. We are not perfect. Circumstance can change what we feel for anyone even if that person is the most loved one. So rather than saying that I have found soul mate of my life, I would like to say that I have found a person who can love me even if I am wrong. And He is my husband. This doesn’t mean I always expect him to be cheesy and doing lovely talks. We are in real trek and we face challenges of thinking differently. At times we argue and end our day on a bitter note. But soon we clear our misunderstanding and move on. For me, this is more than becoming soul mates. And yes, it may not feel as fanciful as the movies make it, but according to science, happiness and long-lasting love come with trial and error, ups and downs, and a ton of rewards.





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  1. Shipra, it's a honest take on soulmates and agree that there is no universal definition as endorsed in a glamor style. Every relationships has its ups and downs which define the love shared by couples in the growing years. A great take on soulmates.

    https://vishalbheeroo.wordpress.com/2016/11/27/wow-seeking-the-soul-in-the-mate/

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  2. Hi Vishal, thanks for appreciating my point of view.

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    1. Hey Thanks Sara..I glad that you liked my views..

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  4. What a practical approach! Ups and downs are two sides of every relation. You have hit it right, none is perfect.

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    1. Thank you so much Rajashree..I tried to take inspiration from my own life and here comes a fact :)

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  5. Wonderfully expressed, Shipra:)
    May the good times last forever.

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