Friday, 21 October 2016

Thinking about losing your postpartum gain?

After delivering my son, I had 13 kgs extra added to my pre-pregnancy weight. People, who used to encourage me for eating well, started giving me advice about losing weight, including my husband. First few months I didn't care what people were saying but then I tried my old cloths and I was shattered. I was not fitting in any one of them and I finally admitted that I was looking like a football. Then suddenly my knees started hurting and again everyone connected my aching knees with my overweight body. I was doing everything which I could do for reducing those extra kilos but the process was indeed slow. Finally I went to an orthopedic doc for my hurting knees and I asked him if my postpartum weight gain is responsible for it. He smiled and said "Not at all". I had Vit D deficiency and that was causing pain in my knees. I was killing myself with eating less (because I had no time to hit any gym) so that I could lose some weight but the problem was something else.
We give so much attention to our physical appearance and what other people say about how we look. But while thinking about our postpartum weight gain or loss, we overlook what we really gained after creating a life. Have a look at some of the things which we mothers gain after taking our babies in this world, along with weight factor:
1. We gain Thinking as a mother: Before having kids, no girl goes to learn motherhood. There is no such course available as of now. But suddenly we start understanding everything from a mother's point of view. We start learning new things, how to carry the baby, how to burp him, how to clean him, how to change his cloths and many more. We start understanding our babies who can barely do anything for making us understand them. This is the most wonderful insight that we gain.
2. We gain Selflessness: Please recall, before having kids what mattered us most and what now. It's our kids. Selflessness doesn't come to us with any class. We gained it absolutely naturally. Our world revolves around kids now. Every decision we take now has connection with our kids. We sacrifice a-lot of things apatite, sleep, time and self. And we do it without any regret.
3. We gain Unconditional love: We are mothers and that's world's best title so far. For our kids, no one can take our place ever. Our kids need us all the time, when they are happy, when they are sad, when they are scared and when they are proud. They give us immense love in response of our efforts. This feeling of love is absolutely pure and genuine. 
4. We gain Self worth: As a mother we always try to improve ourselves. We know that little imperfection can hurt our kids because we know our importance in our kid's life. We understand that kids love us and that's why we keep on evolving as their mother. We believe that we are worthy of being mothers of our kids.
So mothers, next time when you feel stressed about your postpartum shape, please remember that your fleshy arms carry sleepy and sometimes scared little souls and make them feel fine. Your heavy legs give you strength to stand for almost complete night with rocking your babies. Your flabby tummy makes a perfect lap where babies can feel heaven. This postpartum weight gain is helping you actually. So next time you look at mirror, please feel blessed that you gained so much. Weight is just one of them and you can slowly work over it. Keeping yourself fit is always good but killing yourself in hurrying for it is big NO NO.

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