Wednesday, 19 October 2016

A Funny Tale Of My Childhood Around Periods

Explaining Menstruation to daughters used to be a horrible task for mothers 20 years back. In most cases, mothers used to explain it to their daughter when they had already seen this bloody show for the first time in their lives. I understand, this is a serious topic and every mother should take responsibility of explaining periods to her daughter well before so that she can prepare herself for it.
When I first saw the topic #PeriodPride , one of my childhood memories, which is around periods only  and is extremely funny, suddenly knocked me. My Buaji (my father’s sister) is married in a big, 25 members, joint family. This funny incidence happened with my Buaji’s elder daughter Bittu (my cousin). My Buaji has always been very new age and informed lady. So when her daughter (Bittu) crossed her 11th birthday, she thought to explain periods to her. On one Saturday, after dinner, she took Bittu along and went on the terrace for talking to her about this ‘secret’ matter.  That was the time (nineties era)when puberty used to be an unknown word for pre-teen girls. So, Buaji  told her daughter that when girls enter to their teenage, their body change and prepare itself for future. For this, every month or so, one of the ovaries releases impure blood through vaginal passes. In a proper way, she told her daughter how to use sanitary pads and the importance of changing them. However, that was the era when no one used to talk openly about periods so my Buaji also made sure to tell her daughter that this information should be kept secret. So far so good. She thought she had explained everything.

Next day was Sunday so all the kids of my Buaji’s family were home. My cousin, Bittu, was in real jolt after listening all this from her mother. And due to this awkward topic, she couldn’t express her situation in front of her mother. But you know, same age kids are always best friends and best friends never hide anything. So Bittu explained everything which she understood from her mother to one of her cousin brothers. She said to him that this would happen to you as well as this is a mandatory process of getting young. She told him to be aware of any blood stain in his underpants, exactly as her mother told her. Now Bittu’s brother was also scared. For releasing his uneasiness, he passed this information to any other kid of his family. And this chain of passing information about periods finally reached to each of the kids of the family.  Youngest boy among them was not able to keep it secret (as was told by his brothers and sisters) so he questioned his mother why blood would come from my body when I would become a big boy? His mother was shocked after listening to his question. With so much anxiety she asked the boy who told him this. And then a backtracking started from last kid who heard this period story to Bittu who initiated this thread. When asked why she shared everything with her cousin, Bittu replied that she forgot that this was an only girl thing and didn’t apply for her cousin!

All the ladies in my Buaji’s family were laughing madly over Bittu’s silliness and innocence at the same time. She cared for her cousins so she played the role of a responsible sister and passed this information to her brothers and sisters. When my Buaji told this story to us (my family), there was a burst of laughter. How a serious matter become much talked about affair in her family. But good things is, directly or indirectly, all the kids of my Buaji’s family came to know about a human body’s fact. They all knew how nature has created all this so that a girl's body become physically capable of getting pregnant. How ovulation happens and how the lining of the uterus is shed through the vagina. The changes associated with puberty can be a little scary but Bittu made it an easy discussion after letting every of her cousins know about it. Since that day, talking periods was no more a taboo in her family!


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